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October 23, 2013 § 12 Comments
The same false teachers who try to dim the luster of conjugal faith and purity do not scruple to do away with the honorable and trusting obedience which the woman owes to the man. Many of them even go further and assert that such a subjection of one party to the other is unworthy of human dignity, that the rights of husband and wife are equal; wherefore, they boldly proclaim the emancipation of women has been or ought to be effected. This emancipation in their ideas must be threefold, in the ruling of the domestic society, in the administration of family affairs and in the rearing of the children. It must be social, economic, physiological: – physiological, that is to say, the woman is to be freed at her own good pleasure from the burdensome duties properly belonging to a wife as companion and mother (We have already said that this is not an emancipation but a crime); social, inasmuch as the wife being freed from the cares of children and family, should, to the neglect of these, be able to follow her own bent and devote herself to business and even public affairs; finally economic, whereby the woman even without the knowledge and against the wish of her husband may be at liberty to conduct and administer her own affairs, giving her attention chiefly to these rather than to children, husband and family.
This, however, is not the true emancipation of woman, nor that rational and exalted liberty which belongs to the noble office of a Christian woman and wife; it is rather the debasing of the womanly character and the dignity of motherhood, and indeed of the whole family, as a result of which the husband suffers the loss of his wife, the children of their mother, and the home and the whole family of an ever watchful guardian. More than this, this false liberty and unnatural equality with the husband is to the detriment of the woman herself, for if the woman descends from her truly regal throne to which she has been raised within the walls of the home by means of the Gospel, she will soon be reduced to the old state of slavery (if not in appearance, certainly in reality) and become as amongst the pagans the mere instrument of man.
Zippy Catholic 
Ha! Love this paragraph. The Church has been blessed to have had some very holy men as Popes in the more modern times.
Well, these paragraphs.
Again, my response is that this is not a new disease but a “me too” disease. This is the fruit of Adam’s sin. Wives want to be more like how too many fathers behave, acting as if the family is an addition rather than the point of what we do. How many men neglect the administration of the family and rearing of children.
. . . social, economic, physiological: – physiological, that is to say, the man is free at his own good pleasure from the burdensome duties properly belonging to a husband as companion and father (We have already said that this is not an emancipation but a crime); social, inasmuch as the husband being freed from the cares of children and family, should, to the neglect of these, be able to follow his own bent and devote himself to business and even public affairs ; finally economic, whereby the man even without the knowledge and against the wish of his wife may be at liberty to conduct and administer his own affairs, giving her attention chiefly to these rather than to children, wife and family.
Ouch, I added comments in brackets and WordPress left them out. You’ll have to figure it out for yourself.
vetdoctor:
Wordpress quite literally left them out — that is, there is no content in brackets in the comment when I go to edit it.
Love this.
Polygamy will be the next “marriage right” and it will be pushed as a religious right by so called Christians.
Christian men see their non-Christian counterparts having sex with lots of different women, and wonder why they should be limited to one woman. The answer is because that’s what God wants, but they aren’t thinking in that mode. Instead they’ll focus on creating a polygamy loophole. And Christian women won’t just go along with them, they will be the ones actually pushing it.
About 20 years ago I heard a black woman say that there was a type of de facto polygamy being practiced in the black community. Women were deciding it was better to be a “good” man’s long term mistress than to marry down (or not have a man at all). And the wives quietly put up with it, because the lack of “good” men in the black community meant she was unlikely to remarry should she divorce.
We all know the black community has become the forerunner of our wider society.
How long till the legion of 30+ college educated white women with little marital prospects decide they’re better off being a long term mistress to a “good” man than being single (or marrying the beta loser)? How long after that will they decide that being a “good” man’s wife #2 (or #3 or #4) is better than being a long term mistress? That’s when we’ll see the real push for polygamy.
8to12:
Yep, we are seeing the preliminary groundwork for a “Christian” polygamy now, on blogs, in comboxes, and elsewhere.
I think the preliminary groundwork was done by the well-meaning trads and feminist enablers who warped traditional understand and teaching on masculinity and femininity. The biggest draw for polygyny for women will be a chance to have a simulacrum of a real man in her life, and the majority of what most churches teach today about men and women militates against men being men.
My sympathy for many women is tempered by the fact that what they typically want in men is a contradiction. They want strong, capable, dominate men who are nevertheless not the least bit threatening, insensitive or “dangerous.” In many respects, the men they’ve gotten are the men they deserve and vice versa.
Women do not realize that men who are dominate become that way because they are used to people listening to them, people looking up to them, creating change by physical or intellectual force. A woman with an ordinary sort of man can encourage him to behave more masculinely by making him feel respected and to feel used to being obeyed instantly. Respect is intricately tied to gratitude- looking for the good in a man and admiring it. Men do not respond to criticism, but they do to gratitude and admiration. So respect and obey, wives; you don’t need to drop your husband to find a “good” man- treat the one you have like he is a seriously powerful person and his demeanor will slowly change to where he acts in a more dominant manner. A man can’t act like a benevolent king if he has no subjects. And a woman who would rather be under dominance by indifference than dominance by submission is a total fool.
I find the undermining of the basics of Christian culture to be frightening. Most Christians are only cultural Christians anyway- mere moralists- when it suits them better to abandon certain parts, they will. I think that the Christian women who promote polygamy hope to encourage that lifestyle so that they can do the divorce and remarriage hop for longer into their crony years. No one would be interested in taking on an old bat as a first wife, but as a third or fourth- sure! They themselves do not want monogamy, but want options open to them as they grow bored with their husband. It is the natural response to wanting to be married but being incapable of contentment within marriage past year 2 or 3. I expect the divorce rate to surge when polygamy goes mainstream. If it does. I doubt many men would like to be financially responsible for today’s professional shoppers. One wife is expensive enough.
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